tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6327165758377801408.post645178669160924255..comments2024-01-26T13:12:55.520-08:00Comments on Feel Free to Read: Ghost FatherGlenn Buttkushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10680725814199700692noreply@blogger.comBlogger24125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6327165758377801408.post-89113068427989797562014-06-11T22:48:05.223-07:002014-06-11T22:48:05.223-07:00Glenn - my father came back from the war, but we n...Glenn - my father came back from the war, but we never knew him. A part of him never returned.<br /><br />Sometimes I read people write that fathers are unnecessary - and think how wrong they are.<br /><br />Thanks for sharing this. You always mattered.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6327165758377801408.post-7780538962493402122014-06-11T07:24:58.826-07:002014-06-11T07:24:58.826-07:00A strong and contemplative write...thought provoki...A strong and contemplative write...thought provoking. My birthmother died young so i only knew her through pictures and it does leave you with lots of questions.lynndianehttp://madhatterpoetry.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6327165758377801408.post-27632310288960834202014-06-11T07:05:40.212-07:002014-06-11T07:05:40.212-07:00Very rarely there was a grandfather who not only c...Very rarely there was a grandfather who not only covered the void but was also a great mentor! It would be a great boost towards the eventual self development and progress of those he undertook to give guidance to! Great write Glenn!<br /><br />Hankkaykualahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03240206222973305395noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6327165758377801408.post-21037640388452857522014-06-11T04:51:21.005-07:002014-06-11T04:51:21.005-07:00This Song of your Story is beautifully done. How i...This Song of your Story is beautifully done. How insightful and reflective. Roslyn Rosshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15700960108357035957noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6327165758377801408.post-27646389740819318872014-06-11T04:12:30.277-07:002014-06-11T04:12:30.277-07:00"my valise/of emotional ignorance": what..."my valise/of emotional ignorance": what a stunning image. Heartfelt and honest, amazing.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13151381250841886227noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6327165758377801408.post-50836764460252045862014-06-11T03:41:41.119-07:002014-06-11T03:41:41.119-07:00Glenn that is true... In some case even the know f...Glenn that is true... In some case even the know father seems to an alien to me.... they cant relate at all why is that i wonder.....<br /><br />I know a person whos is neither like father nor like mother as u metion he is just like his maternal uncle and his mothers father............ <br /><br />nice readAishwarya Mageshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13389941948853317331noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6327165758377801408.post-23818024029710000682014-06-11T01:17:38.148-07:002014-06-11T01:17:38.148-07:00good that you had grandfather to mentor you...and ...good that you had grandfather to mentor you...and you have made it..that's what it counts at the end<br />Arathi Hariharhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17142420236345157881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6327165758377801408.post-75453851152324150562014-06-10T20:33:49.608-07:002014-06-10T20:33:49.608-07:00it's great that you found that father figure i...it's great that you found that father figure in your grandfather...still<br />it's so sad to live those uncertain moments of void...a very poignant and moving poem....Sumana Royhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17333363799083094084noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6327165758377801408.post-41075955453545892442014-06-10T17:45:00.368-07:002014-06-10T17:45:00.368-07:00So sad. I am sorry. I am glad that your grandfathe...So sad. I am sorry. I am glad that your grandfather was your mentor and a positive role model in your life.ayalahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13243362803799877014noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6327165758377801408.post-71712098993981749252014-06-10T17:29:40.821-07:002014-06-10T17:29:40.821-07:00First, kudos to you for sharing and putting the st...First, kudos to you for sharing and putting the story on paper; a heartfelt acknowledgement of the stamp this made in your life and how well you have managed to dissect and reflect and move on. Second, my father had a very similar experience; he was 4 when he last saw his father. However, he took it hard that his father never took the time and trouble to find him in all the years to follow,, to find out what kind of a man he had grown to be. I know he was tortured by it, although he was adopted by my grandmother's 2nd husband....she never told him why and although my father searched he never did find him....recently, I discovered he had another family and died in 1981, but my father died before I learned the details. I wish he had dealt with it better, and thought he was better off not knowing, but it was exactly that that got his goat..not understanding why a father would not search for him...and be proud of him.....harder still to not know one iota of who your father was ;(Kathy Reedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12326495504453579091noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6327165758377801408.post-74134503774341215142014-06-10T16:43:55.636-07:002014-06-10T16:43:55.636-07:00Glenn, a superb history lesson of your life. Perse...Glenn, a superb history lesson of your life. Perseverance and fortitude come through strongly. I'm no judge, but I'd say you're a better man for it, just from your expression of it! Thanks for this.Walt Wojtanikhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02723314300320671675noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6327165758377801408.post-53547717055047644592014-06-10T15:22:58.303-07:002014-06-10T15:22:58.303-07:00I would expect nothing less,than the open, honest ...I would expect nothing less,than the open, honest and dramatic story you have shared with us, Glenn. Brilliant, honest, heart-bending. Thanks, my friend. Joseph Heschhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13217169295029029233noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6327165758377801408.post-71129411304214946832014-06-10T15:22:25.999-07:002014-06-10T15:22:25.999-07:00I so enjoyed your story Glenn ~ What an honest as...I so enjoyed your story Glenn ~ What an honest assessment of your life and thank goodness for the care and love of your grandfather ~ How really do we know our fathers, I imagine you will get different responses ~ I was fortunate to know mine very well but I can't say the same for my other cousins ~ Thanks for sharing this ~Gracehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02213172239590722747noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6327165758377801408.post-82668462773872403872014-06-10T14:59:34.453-07:002014-06-10T14:59:34.453-07:00Glenn, wonderfully written and lived through! I am...Glenn, wonderfully written and lived through! I am so glad you had your grandfather. Grandparents rock. How hard for your mom in those days when mores were so strict, to find herself in that position. I remember in my teens our church community was that strict and it would not have been easy for her at all. I read your well told story with such admiration for how you made sense of it all. Great write! I love this prompt and all the amazing stories.Sherry Blue Skyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10769154286598233146noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6327165758377801408.post-6491396253673575972014-06-10T14:18:04.992-07:002014-06-10T14:18:04.992-07:00I can relate to this in a way... I remember being ...I can relate to this in a way... I remember being a kid, looking to random men to see myself in... even though, I knew who my dad was and always will; I didn't like who he was as a man, and I didn't want to be anything like him... Glad you had your grandfather to mentor you. I've never met my grandpa actually, I think he lives in New Orleans...Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03359959975341890512noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6327165758377801408.post-30690787821910516442014-06-10T14:00:47.812-07:002014-06-10T14:00:47.812-07:00Goodness me, Glenn, talk about skeletons in closet...Goodness me, Glenn, talk about skeletons in closets. What a revealing piece of poetry - and so very true that just because people know who their fathers are, doesn't mean that this will be a positive thing for their health and well-being. It sounds like your grandfather did a fine job of being the paternal influence in your life - solidity and an anchor, perhaps.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6327165758377801408.post-25529123142868543022014-06-10T13:47:47.441-07:002014-06-10T13:47:47.441-07:00Glenn, what a riveting story you have shared! I li...Glenn, what a riveting story you have shared! I like how you explored what it means to be a father. From what I have heard of people who had no idea who their father was it is a question which haunts you for life. Yet, as you say, some fathers are father only in title. Gabriellahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09968615376035959259noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6327165758377801408.post-9693244180570567332014-06-10T13:33:57.798-07:002014-06-10T13:33:57.798-07:00Gleen this is very poignant and powerful. So much ...Gleen this is very poignant and powerful. So much strength comes from adversity. >KBAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6327165758377801408.post-58727997535473333662014-06-10T13:23:03.336-07:002014-06-10T13:23:03.336-07:00Brilliant, brilliant read - and therefore what a W...Brilliant, brilliant read - and therefore what a WRITE. Brilliant. Raw, true, straight, delivered so well. A must to read again.<br />THIS is my kind of poetry.PirateGunnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02619759991219830629noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6327165758377801408.post-19064385533287500382014-06-10T12:12:55.158-07:002014-06-10T12:12:55.158-07:00Never knew my grandfathers. Glad you got to know y...Never knew my grandfathers. Glad you got to know yours ~Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6327165758377801408.post-57982777575258978652014-06-10T12:07:49.502-07:002014-06-10T12:07:49.502-07:00it is cool that you had your granddad to give you ...it is cool that you had your granddad to give you some stability and as a father figure... heck.. i can imagine though that you wanted to know who your father was - glad you found peace about it finallyClaudiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03011763027311966186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6327165758377801408.post-9388696770218912582014-06-10T12:06:32.146-07:002014-06-10T12:06:32.146-07:00Glenn, what a stirring tale you have told with you...Glenn, what a stirring tale you have told with your words. So very true though that many children who know their fathers have fathers in name only. So in one way maybe it is better not to know who one's father is than to have an absentee, an abusive, or a belittling father. It is good you had your grandfather. A father figure, in any case. But I do understand your fantasizing and wanting to know. It definitely was his loss.Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07366010389846904663noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6327165758377801408.post-52610659353963459432014-06-10T11:42:49.352-07:002014-06-10T11:42:49.352-07:00well i am glad that you had that grandfather to be...well i am glad that you had that grandfather to be that mentor...too many kids running around these days without a father figure in their lives...i dont know if i would want to find him...my wife was adopted and she has no desire to know who her birth parents were her connection is so great with her adoptive family...too many answers i would be unsure i really wanted to know, you know...Brian Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00722940075884718007noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6327165758377801408.post-2262052988771858692014-06-10T11:11:17.402-07:002014-06-10T11:11:17.402-07:00Glenn, this was some kind of story.. war certainly...Glenn, this was some kind of story.. war certainly created a lot of fatherless children --- for many reasons... I can just imagine you staring into the faces of random men.. maybe seeing your father... or maybe hoping not to find him... great share. brudberghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12563403553536472377noreply@blogger.com